Get tough with bullies...

Get tough with bullies, or the problem will get worse

by Julie P. Clark

In my research on RA and other forms of bullying, I read that the bullies should not be blamed. And I've read that children should not be made to feel bad about their misbehavior. I don't know about you, but I wouldn't want to be around anyone, child or adult, who feels good about his/her bad behavior. Remember when our parents and grandparents used the word "shame," or "I'm ashamed of you?" A little shame may be what is needed these days.

Do those who say that children should not be made to feel bad about their behavior really believe that? What is a sociopath? One who doesn't feel bad about his/her misbehavior! He/she feels no shame, remorse, or empathy! Is that how we want to raise our kids?

We need to get in touch with their humanity, we need them to feel bad about it when they have hurt someone. As long as they feel okay about it, why should they stop? They probably won't. Continued...