Relational Aggression

Relational Aggression (RA) is the systematic abuse of another by a person or a group of persons. RA is usually perpetrated by girls on another girl, usually singling out a target. She/they exclude, ridicule, and humiliate the target. They gossip and lie about her, eating away at her self-esteem. The American Association of School Psychologists state that 160,000 kids a day miss school because of a fear of bullying. RA is a serious form of bullying. Not only do these girls miss valuable education time, it can have serious consequences on their mental health. Girls tend to focus inward when depressed. This may manifest in eating disorders, drug and alcohol abuse, cutting (self-mutilation), and, sometimes, even suicide. There is even a new word that describes suicide of bullying victims...bullycide.

I have put together some information for parents, schools, places of worship, Y's, and other organizations. This information is practical and can be put in place immediately, without waiting for a club or program to show results, which can take a long time. Too long, when it involves the abuse of another.

RA has been tolerated for too long. Many say that they don't know what to do. My report gives you that information. Be warned: It is not wishy-washy, touchy feely, tap dance around the problem stuff. It is calling it what it is: abuse. It will mean teaching the aggressor (bully, abuser) that what she is doing is wrong, and that it will not be tolerated. It will be about empowering the victim to stand up for herself. It will be about getting the "bystanders" (often, participants) to recognize their role in this abuse and to stop participating.

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